Date: 25-05-11 20:20
Remembering that she doesn't legally have to be at school until 6yo, have you considered continuing with Playcentre + non-official home-schooling and extra playdates for a few months. She could continue her self-esteem classes and anything else of interest that provides a semi-school environment e.g. group art, music, or sports.
Sounds very strange for a teacher threatening to hold back a child in Y1 -probably a very empty threat and quite immature of the teacher to raise it.
I imagine (without any judgement or negativity) that 'gentle parenting' doesn't toughen kids up to the range of bullying tactics that some teachers use to get control of the classroom. Sad that children need 'toughening' to defend themselves and also sad that our class ratios (and parenting) result in groups of children that a teacher feels powerless to control without turning to growling etc.
Now that Sophie's class is bigger, is it possible to provide parent help for a few hours (perhaps on roster with other parents) to help monitor the situation while supporting the teacher and children through the transition to the larger group?
Good luck and I hope all the medical issues are behind you all.