I have been loitering on this site for a while now, thinking wow that sounds like my 8 year old daughter.
But, I have always felt a bit like maybe I was seeing something that wasn't there, and maybe by thinking she was gifted was rationale for her difficult behaviour, when in fact she was just a naughty child.
School recently sent her to an ODS taster, and we then got her tested for ODS, she has tested in the top one percent. It is so nice to think that maybe I did know her well enough to assess that she was not your average 8 year old. The interesting thing is that she appears to have a weight lifted off because she too recognised that she was not your average 8 year old. Am interested now in getting 11 year old tested as she displays a lot of the same characteristics although very well camouflaged.
I know realise that I wasn't a bad parent with a horrible preschooler, I was a good parent with a gifted preschooler... she has developed into an amazing kid, we have discovered what works and what doesn't regarding disciple.
I guess I just wanted to say thanks for being there for me even though you didn't know you were.
Hope you're still around and posting as well as loitering. I too thought I'd drawn the short straw in my preschooler but now know that all those challenges are part and parcel of being 'so lucky' to have a gifted child.